After AJ, we were again back on the list and waiting for a placement when our licensing worker asked if we wanted to volunteer for a Heart Gallery photo shoot. The Heart Gallery is a photo listing of children (primarily "older children," sibling groups, and/or children with special needs) who are "legally free for adoption"… Continue reading Welp…I wouldn’t do that again…
After a week of waiting for AJ's caseworker to contact us, our licensing worker reached out to the placement worker (the person who matches foster children with foster parents) directly to find out what might be going on. After a number of e-mails back and forth, we were finally given AJ's great-aunt's phone number and… Continue reading So that was a little weird…
During the licensing process, our Licensing Worker encouraged us to be very honest with ourselves about the children we would be able to parent. What behaviors could we manage? Fire setting? Animal abuse? Sexualized behavior and acting out? Violence? What special needs are we willing to work with? ADHD? Autism? Bi-Polar Disorder? Developmental and cognitive… Continue reading Our First “Yes!”
As we neared the end of the licensing process, we still hadn't told anyone we were considering becoming foster parents (other than a few close friends and family members who served as our references during our home study). In fact, my sister in law did not find out we were becoming foster parents until she… Continue reading The Big Announcement
There is nothing more infuriating to me than when someone tells me that I'm not capable of doing something. I recognize this is a personal problem and I'm working on it. But even when I know in my heart that I am capable, I become enraged when someone tells me that I am not. It's… Continue reading Foster Parent Licensing Step Six: This is a Test
Foster Parenting Step Four: CPR and First Aid Certifications So in order to be good foster parent, you have to keep the kid physically alive. An absurd amount of the foster care licensing process is dedicated to how to not kill or seriously maim the child; how not to have your house burn down; and how… Continue reading Foster Parent Licensing Parts Four and Five: Don’t Die on Me
When we decided to take the plunge into the foster parent licensing process, we did so with one important ground rule: if, at any point in the process, one of us said, "Hell No. I can't do this," we would stop. No judgment, no questions asked. Frankly, the "Hell No Rule" works well in many… Continue reading Foster Parent Licensing Step Three (Part Two): Hell No?
Foster Care Licensing Step Three: Foster Parent University School. Can you hear us breathing a sigh of relief? Between the two of us, we have clocked more than twenty years of higher education so this was an area in which we felt right at home. Six hour PS-Mapp Class for six Saturdays? No problem. Reasonable… Continue reading Foster Parent Licensing Step Three: How do you do this, exactly?
Foster Care Licensing Step Two: The Intake Interview After the Information Session, I figured we'd have to wait a long time to hear back from the agency, but they called only days later to set up an interview. I didn't call back right away. We were leaving on a much needed vacation for some beach… Continue reading Licensing Step Two: Are you for real?
"Do you have what it takes?" This is, essentially, the main question that the licensing process will try to answer. That and, "Is your home a fire hazard?" The second question can be resolved by simply making sure you have a fire extinguisher and a smoke detector in literally every room in your house. (I'm… Continue reading Foster Parent Licensing Step One: The Information Session