After my difficult conversation with our placement worker, I wasn't looking forward to my meeting with our licensing worker, Frances. My husband would be at work and Frances (like most people) prefers my husband over me. If we had realized the conversation would be difficult, we would have scheduled a time where he could be… Continue reading A Good Foster Parent
Spoiler alert. As of today, two years after I almost quit foster parenting, I am writing this while sitting next to my nine year old son - who lived with us as a foster placement for 18 months before we adopted him. He is the love of our lives. But two years ago this week,… Continue reading Love isn’t enough.
After a two week break, we went back on "the list." But it didn't take long for us to notice something was different this time around. We repeatedly received referral calls for children with "high needs case management" - whether or not they fit our profile. One inquiry was from Ivette, the child behavior specialist who… Continue reading The price of competence.
It was Tuesday evening before we were able to get the appropriate security clearance to visit Marcus at the Children's Hospital. And we didn't really know what to expect when we got there. It was less than 10 days before halloween and one of my good friends made and decorated adorable skeleton cookies that… Continue reading High Needs Case Management
The Monday after our rough weekend with Marcus, I worked from home. We had a pre-scheduled meeting that afternoon with Ivette, the counselor that attempted to work with Marcus in his first foster home. She had asked to meet with us to discuss strategies to work with Marcus when he ultimately moved into our home.… Continue reading The Breakdown
When we woke the next morning, my first call was to the shelter to check on how Marcus was doing after we dropped him off the night before. His shelter case manager, we'll call her "Kathy," picked up the phone immediately. "What happened?" I could hear the concern in her voice. For all of the… Continue reading The Morning After
I am so excited to announce the addition of a new "Foster Parent Resources" page to my site! Since we became foster parents, I learned that so many other people I know have also considered becoming foster parents or adopting through foster care. So I've compiled all of my recommended reading, watching, and listening into one… Continue reading New Site Page: Foster Parent Resources!
If you read my last post, you know it had already been a rough morning with Marcus. So when he jumped out of our moving vehicle, tried to board a city bus, then ran into the Barnes and Noble, I had a feeling we were in for it. In the nearly two hours that we… Continue reading So we’re no longer welcome at Barnes and Noble…
So this is a long one, but I promise it's an entertaining read. It's got everything: suspense; a police chase; a child jumping out of a moving vehicle (okay a slowly moving vehicle but still...keep those child locks on folks). Grab some wine and pull up a chair. We learned in our foster parenting classes… Continue reading The one where we leave a path of destruction…
The Tuesday following our Friday afternoon visit, we finally got to take Marcus "off campus" for a visit to our house and to meet our dog, Millie! It was WONDERFUL! If it wasn't for the fact that I would have certainly been charged with kidnapping, I never would have brought him back to the… Continue reading First home visit!